SEXUAL LIBERATION for the youth

Sexual liberation- freedom from sexual constraints and inhibitions.

Okay so here is something that caught my attention on twitter, I saw something about rapper TI admitting he goes to the gynecologist with his 18 year old daughter to check if her hymen is still intact. The woman in me squeeled, like, where is the privacy? Is it THAT deep? Does he check his sons too? Is a woman’s sexuality that big of a deal?

To expand my sexual education section, we are going to dwell further into the topic of sexuality and our society. On my blog post Sex education for the youth, I talked about how when we are growing up sex is this taboo thing that we don’t speak of, let alone decide to do. Social, cultural and religious beliefs have made sex a sacred, prohibited and mysterious act of procreation. Sex has been deemed for procreation and enjoyment for men, as far as women are concerned. This doesn’t mean people aren’t having sex, people are having a lot of sex. Young people are having a lot of sex, if yo think I’m lying take a look at the statistics for teenage pregnancies, STDs & unlawful abortions amongst young people.

It’s sad that sex for young people is associated with health risks, unwanted pregnancies and often being shamed in society. This applies for girls more than it does for boys. How often do people tell boys not to have sex? How often do you tell boys to stay away from girls? How often are boys told to preserve themselves for marriage? Boys are given condoms and a pat on the back. Who are these boys expected to have sex with?

Society has declared itself this administrator of women’s bodies that decides when and how women are allowed to be sexual. Please, don’t get me wrong. I’m not disagreeing with anyone’s beliefs as to when the appropriate time to have sex for you is, but the fact is, so many young people are sexually active and are scared to be honest about it because they have been made to believe choosing when and how they want to participate in sexual activities is not a basic human right.

How beneficial would it be if instead of shaming young people society would focus its energy into providing effective, and direct sexual education and services? We can’t fix things we don’t talk about, not talking about sex doesn’t eliminate the fact that people are having it.

I saw a poll last week on twitter where someone asking if abortion should be legalized in Zimbabwe based on the amount of people dying to unsafe abortion practices and a lot of MEN where “pro life” and claiming women have no business participating in sexual activities if they do not want to have kids. These are the same men impregnating said women and refusing to take responsibility. Why must another person have a say over what one chooses to do with their own body? When has anyone ever told men to stop having sex if they are not ready to take responsibility?

We never talk about how policing women’s sexuality has a tremendous effect on their self esteem and often leads to so many young girls craving for validation by men, because society has given men the first say on what women can and cannot do with their bodies.

Being more open minded to issues pertaining to sexuality and giving young people a platform to talk about it freely and seek help in a judgement free space is a huge step towards eliminating a lot of sex related diseases and problems our society continues to face. Encourage the conversation, in your homes, with your families, friends and acquaintances.

This blog post alone has been brewing in my heart for a long time, I’ve wanted to say it. I want to say it but I’m scared of the backlash, i have so many readers that are my parents, relatives, and older people reading my blog that when I want to talk about issues pertaining to sexual education and liberation I fear what they might think, but the truth is I’m going to have to say it. I’ve devoted my blog to discussing important topics and if it means breaking out of my comfort zone then it is what it is.