MENTAL HOUSECLEANING.

When I was growing up, one scripture my mom always quoted was Proverbs 18 vs 21:

Life and death are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.

Honestly, my mother would get really worked up if I ever said anything negative. In her presence, negativity was an insult to both you and her. I remember one instance when I had a really bad flu and in trying to explain my symptoms to her I said “My Flu”, I kid you not the woman threw a fit. She told me she didn’t give birth to me with a flu and I own no flu and she never wants to hear those words again.

I slowly started to adapt to her ways and stopped making snarky comments in her presence because I was living under her roof and I definitely wasn’t trying to be homeless before I turned 18.

As I grew up and went to varsity, none of that mattered anymore. You know I’m not in her house anymore so she can’t hear what I say right? Sarcasm is daily bread, why not indulge in snarky demeaning remarks about myself to crack a joke or two? How about making a joke out of basically every situation I’m in because “we’re here for a good time not a long time.”

I have found myself saying things like:

I’m so crazy

My life is a mess

I’ll never get over this

I’m a whole joke

At what cost? Had everything in life become such a joke to me that I started taking myself as one as well?

Something happened to me a few days ago and I told my friend Maxine about it. Yesterday she came to remind me that over the past months I had been consistently joking to her about how I wanted to do THIS SAME THING. That’s when it hit me.

Life and death are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.

I said something, forgot about it and it happened. I slowly started to unwind at all the things that have been happening to me over the past few months, how some of it felt like Déjà vu because I’d already spoken about it earlier.

Me and my friend Maxine then decided to permanently dissociate ourselves from negatively proclaiming things about ourselves. The last few months of 2019 are going to be about positive affirmations and they will come true.

So if you’re reading this I’d like to give you an exercise, each morning in your bathroom mirror before you brush your teeth look yourself in the eye and affirm beautiful things about yourself. Speak whatever you want into existence. Change your worries to hopes and stop belittling yourself.

You know how in your house every once in a while there’s this intense cleaning where all the worn out stuff is thrown out and the nice cutlery is dusted and replenished? So should be your mind. Mental housecleaning is about throwing out the negative and giving space to the positive.

I read in Louise L Hay’s book, You can heal your life that the best way to do so is by understanding what your limiting belief is and pinpointing where it stems from. A limiting belief is the thought that has you doubting yourself and saying negative things about yourself.

Here’s a personal example:

Limiting belief: He/She is probably going through a lot.

Where it stems from: The constant need to heal, fix and nurture what is broken in people, justifying their toxic behavior and putting them and their needs before mine thereby bending over backwards for others frequently.

I took this right out of a diary entry I made a few months ago so I can show you what I mean. Sometimes the way we think or behave often has to do with a belief we have and often fail to let go off. These in turn affect how we see and think about ourselves and also how other people view us. If you’re constantly saying you’re a joke people will take you as one.

I hope you managed to read this post to the very end and you manage to do your mental housecleaning and become your true better self, don’t miss out on opportunities, your healing and blessings because of the things your proclaim with your mouth, and you can always share your success stories with me here.

Thank you for reading.