“A woman of certain standing,of certain wisdom and with certain knowledge of the world in which she lives. Femme fatale is a woman who knows how to turn her life experiences to her advantage” – Marlene Dietrich
Since I haven't written anything in ages, I had also stopped reading what I've written before- because then I would remember that writing used to be my escape and that I don't do it anymore. In fact, I had even stopped thinking of myself as someone who writes because isn't that what it's called when … Continue reading This Infinity Of Life
Loneliness is something I’ve experienced my entire life. Not because I never had friends or didn’t socialize- which I did. But sometimes I would find myself in a room full of people yet still feeling so so alone. It didn’t make any sense because I had friends, I had family and a “normal” life but … Continue reading Lonely Is Not Synonymous With Needy
this is an ode to my mental illness: an ode to she who takes up space, she who makes me sleep, she who makes me think, and she who keeps me up. this is an ode to my mental illness: an ode to my best friend, an ode to my worst enemy, an ode to … Continue reading An Ode To My Mental Illness
I’ve always paid GREAT attention to detail. I observe everything, I’m aware of my surroundings, almost all the time. I’m also very passionate about the things in my life. Whether it’s a new tv show I’m watching, a new person I’m talking to or a hobby I recently developed, I either give it my all … Continue reading Mental Health Status: Hyper Fixated On Hyperfixation
DISCLAIMER: A lot of people struggle with self hate, myself included. It’s hard to always love yourself when you’ve set so many expectations and promises for yourself. This is a letter I wrote to myself when I felt under the weather and I wanted to reassure myself. I’m only sharing it because I realize a … Continue reading Open Letter To Myself
Before I hopped on this whole feminism wave, I always said, ON THIS VERY BLOG that I wasn’t a feminist because I didn’t understand it enough. To me, feminism, was a heavy cause, one I wasn’t deserving of until I fully understood it or was committed enough to take it up. Part of the reason … Continue reading My Journey To Feminism
I’m a black woman. My hair is short, my hips are wide my lips are thick. I’m a black woman. Naturally when I walk into a room, my skin color introduces itself But I’m a black woman. That shouldn’t come as a suprise, right? I’m a black woman, the color of my skin is besides … Continue reading To Be Black- And A Woman
When I was growing up nothing irked me more than being called a “girly girl”. I’m sure a lot of people can relate to this. I did not want to be called a girly girl, I did not have enough female friends. I just didn’t want to identify myself that way. In fact, I thought … Continue reading Assertion in Femininity
As I lay awake at night, life becomes increasingly difficult to live. I've confided in basically everyone I know , I've told them how I feel, heck , I've even gotten therapy . But will therapy stop the voices in my head from tormenting me when the sun isn't shining ? Every night at 3am … Continue reading The Prerequisites Of Self Healing
Forgiveness- the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, and overcomes negative emotions such as resentment and vengeance (however justified it might be). Forgiveness is a concept most of us have from birth. If you hadn’t noticed, children are the most forgiving people there … Continue reading FORGIVENESS LAID BARE
I’ve always struggled with categorizing myself. Each time I think I’m one thing, I turn out to be the other. It’s a thing that I have, of constantly being fascinated by something new. I want to be a part of things, I’m curious about things, I am things. I wear many hats of different sizes, … Continue reading A GIRL WITH MANY HATS
People mistaken misogyny as this deep intense hatred fostered by men for women. By definition, misogyny really does sound like that but what about those subtle societal standards, principles, and expectations that are clearly prejudiced against women? What do you call it when the system holds women to a certain standard to which it doesn’t … Continue reading Chocolate flavored MISOGYNY
Sexual liberation- freedom from sexual constraints and inhibitions.Okay so here is something that caught my attention on twitter, I saw something about rapper TI admitting he goes to the gynecologist with his 18 year old daughter to check if her hymen is still intact. The woman in me squeeled, like, where is the privacy? Is … Continue reading SEXUAL LIBERATION for the youth
So recently on twitter, a feminist friend of mine posted something I didn't quite understand. She was talking about how people misunderstand her respect for her boyfriend as being controlled and she said she respects her boyfriend enough not to talk back to him in public as she gives him the same respect she would … Continue reading WHY PATRIARCHY THRIVES
I recently came to realize that life is actually very simple but we complicate things for ourselves by the little things we practice. In Mental house cleaning I talked about cleansing your mind of negative thoughts that disrupt your growth and in this blogpost, I will guide you through a few principles that have made … Continue reading ENERGY|EMOTION|EXPERIENCE
Recently, someone close to me came to ask me if I was okay and if there was anything wrong with me or some pain I was masking particularly through my social media posts and what not, but my response was “is anyone okay?” Is anyone in our generation enjoying this uni, adult life thing at … Continue reading GENERATION Y- are we so sad?
this is for all the people that prefer me with hair, it’s for the people that don’t understand why I shave my head, it’s for you who you told me to grow my hair again, this is for the person I was before my haircut. i make no apologies for how you perceive me, i … Continue reading BALD, BOUJEE & BEAUTIFUL
When I wrote my blogpost, “women=clowns?” A lot of my male followers weren’t interested, particularly cause they thought I was on the path to feminism since so many females were really engaged and sharing it, I remember one male acquaintance commented on one my girls posts sharing my blog posts saying “feminism, feminism, repent” I … Continue reading FEMINIST UNVEILED: By A Non Feminist
The reason. The reason they hate you is because you loathe you, The reason they mock you is because you can't say anything nice about yourself, The reason that boy called you fat is because you made a smirky remark about your weight gain, The reason you cry yourself to sleep is because you get … Continue reading And Ode To Me & You
Picture from newsmaven.io Sex Education - The instruction of issues relating to human sexuality, including emotional relations and responsibilities, human sexual anatomy, sexual activity, sexual reproduction, age of consent, reproductive health, reproductive rights, safe sex, birth control, and sexual abstinence. I grew up in a community where the word sex was a curse. You don't … Continue reading SEX EDUCATION FOR THE YOUTH
When I was growing up, one scripture my mom always quoted was Proverbs 18 vs 21: Life and death are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit. Honestly, my mother would get really worked up if I ever said anything negative. In her presence, negativity was an … Continue reading MENTAL HOUSECLEANING.
Since I started my blog and urged people to talk to me pertaining to their mental health issues, I had a lot of captivating conversations with my peers and strangers. The most common & compelling was of molestation and rape. A lot of people have told me, in confidence of how their bodies were invaded … Continue reading RAPE IS NOT A CHOICE
“There was something immodest about her modesty : it announced itself .” Words by Chimamanda Ngozie Adichie in her book Americanah that stroke me last night. I was reading very attentively, page by page , as a typical African woman was described: She was beautiful, kind , cooked & cleaned , respected her husband , … Continue reading Women=clowns?
Developmental trauma- Term used in literature to describe child abuse , neglect or other harsh adversity in the home. When a child is exposed to overwhelming stress and their caregiver does not help reduce the stress or is the cause for the stress, the child develops developmental trauma.Childhood experiences usually have a tremendous effect on … Continue reading FAMILY : Yet another cause of depression.
When people hear the word depression, here’s what they envision: Someone lost someone dear to them , their grieving , their depressed. Someone was oppressed , their traumatized, their depressed. Someone had an accident , they are healing , their depressed. But someone who hasn’t gone through anything can’t be depressed right? We believe in … Continue reading Mental Health Awareness Month🌸
There’s so much power that comes with doing what you want So much power that comes with following your heart , it’s like engineering your own happiness But don’t forget the vulnerability that comes with it too Following your heart means ignoring your brain , your intuition & feeding the parts of you that need … Continue reading The Prerequisites Of Self Improvement
Image from hercampus.com Last summer , as I stood on a pavement outside a shop in central Zimbabwe with my cousin I noticed two men standing across from us. They started having a conversation that was too loud to resist. I remember one asking the other which one he’d prefer and he blatantly said he … Continue reading “Don’t psssst me , I’m no CAT”
I’m anxious. Don’t touch me. Avoid eye contact with me , you’re making me nervous . You know what I HATE? HUMAN INTERACTION. Theres this friend of my moms that bombards me with questions each time we meet. “How’s school” , “Do you have any friends?” , “What results did you get , are you … Continue reading GENERATION Y- “are we so anxious?”
When I was starting my blog I learnt to move with those that are moving with me . I only told a handful of people about it and I can tell you they weren’t all positive remarks I was getting . Like first of all what do you know about blogs? Can you even write … Continue reading VALIDATION: The pain in my gluteus
Photo by Sydney Simms at Unsplash.com Hi , my name is Depression. My best friend social anxiety and I like to coexist. I don’t like it when you have happy thoughts , I don’t like it when you leave bed . I don’t like it when you LIVE . Don’t do it. See that rope … Continue reading The Tales Of MELANCHOLY
CONTEMPORARY FEMME FATALE 