Before I hopped on this whole feminism wave, I always said, ON THIS VERY BLOG that I wasn’t a feminist because I didn’t understand it enough. To me, feminism, was a heavy cause, one I wasn’t deserving of until I fully understood it or was committed enough to take it up. Part of the reason … Continue reading My Journey To Feminism →

I’m a black woman. My hair is short, my hips are wide my lips are thick. I’m a black woman. Naturally when I walk into a room, my skin color introduces itself But I’m a black woman. That shouldn’t come as a suprise, right? I’m a black woman, the color of my skin is besides … Continue reading To Be Black- And A Woman →

When I was growing up nothing irked me more than being called a “girly girl”. I’m sure a lot of people can relate to this. I did not want to be called a girly girl, I did not have enough female friends. I just didn’t want to identify myself that way. In fact, I thought … Continue reading Assertion in Femininity →

I’ve always struggled with categorizing myself. Each time I think I’m one thing, I turn out to be the other. It’s a thing that I have, of constantly being fascinated by something new. I want to be a part of things, I’m curious about things, I am things. I wear many hats of different sizes, … Continue reading A GIRL WITH MANY HATS →

People mistaken misogyny as this deep intense hatred fostered by men for women. By definition, misogyny really does sound like that but what about those subtle societal standards, principles, and expectations that are clearly prejudiced against women? What do you call it when the system holds women to a certain standard to which it doesn’t … Continue reading Chocolate flavored MISOGYNY →

Sexual liberation- freedom from sexual constraints and inhibitions.Okay so here is something that caught my attention on twitter, I saw something about rapper TI admitting he goes to the gynecologist with his 18 year old daughter to check if her hymen is still intact. The woman in me squeeled, like, where is the privacy? Is … Continue reading SEXUAL LIBERATION for the youth →

So recently on twitter, a feminist friend of mine posted something I didn't quite understand. She was talking about how people misunderstand her respect for her boyfriend as being controlled and she said she respects her boyfriend enough not to talk back to him in public as she gives him the same respect she would … Continue reading WHY PATRIARCHY THRIVES →

When I wrote my blogpost, “women=clowns?” A lot of my male followers weren’t interested, particularly cause they thought I was on the path to feminism since so many females were really engaged and sharing it, I remember one male acquaintance commented on one my girls posts sharing my blog posts saying “feminism, feminism, repent” I … Continue reading FEMINIST UNVEILED: By A Non Feminist →

Picture from newsmaven.io Sex Education - The instruction of issues relating to human sexuality, including emotional relations and responsibilities, human sexual anatomy, sexual activity, sexual reproduction, age of consent, reproductive health, reproductive rights, safe sex, birth control, and sexual abstinence.  I grew up in a community where the word sex was a curse. You don't … Continue reading SEX EDUCATION FOR THE YOUTH →

Since I started my blog and urged people to talk to me pertaining to their mental health issues, I had a lot of captivating conversations with my peers and strangers. The most common & compelling was of molestation and rape. A lot of people have told me, in confidence of how their bodies were invaded … Continue reading RAPE IS NOT A CHOICE →

“There was something immodest about her modesty : it announced itself .” Words by Chimamanda Ngozie Adichie in her book Americanah that stroke me last night. I was reading very attentively, page by page , as a typical African woman was described: She was beautiful, kind , cooked & cleaned , respected her husband , … Continue reading Women=clowns? →

Image from hercampus.com Last summer , as I stood on a pavement outside a shop in central Zimbabwe with my cousin I noticed two men standing across from us. They started having a conversation that was too loud to resist. I remember one asking the other which one he’d prefer and he blatantly said he … Continue reading “Don’t psssst me , I’m no CAT” →